What is the Law of Attraction and how does it work?
The Law of Attraction is one of many laws that happen naturally around us. There are many great philosophers and wise men who disagree with each other’s beliefs, but it is this law that all of them agree on. A law that only the ones who have experienced it firsthand know its full potential and what role it can play in one’s journey to success and happiness.
It is through this law that enable individuals to break barriers and set new records, those who set the bar, and those who raise it.
Successful people, inspirational and motivational speakers, wise men, philosophers, and all great role models, spread the idea — the thought, that YOU are capable of being great. This, my friends, is a powerful movement. It is powerful because it is true — WE are capable of being great, and realizing that is very important. A lot of people in this world have come to pass their lives without ever realizing their greatness, or sharing that greatness to the world.
Just how many amazing poems and quotes were signed anonymous without
credit to the owner?
How many stories left untold and unheard?
How many of these brilliant geniuses lost their battle in life due to societal judgments, depression, and false beliefs?
The good news is, we as humans are able to learn from past choices, or from choices made by others. That if we apply what we have learned to ourselves and to our environment, we can eventually bring ourselves to the path where we want to go.
We can be different. We can be great and we can share that to the world in our own unique way.
Our choices always have consequences, good or bad, and our reaction to these consequences are also big decisions to make.
Just because we have made our choices and have seen the consequences doesn’t mean that the decision-making is done. The reaction to these consequences is another step to complete a link in this everlasting chains of events, better known as LIFE.
And like life, the law of attraction attracts many things based on our decisions, whether we are conscious of it or not. Understanding this can give us a huge advantage in making choices, especially life changing ones.
With this understanding, the Law of Attraction can definitely benefit us.
Chains of Events
We must first understand that our life is made up of chains of events — all connected and have their unique roles in our lives.
Think of the link as 3 things: Choice, Consequence, and Reaction.
This completes the link and creates a new link, and the links will then eventually form chains of events. Our lives are composed of chains of events and how we deal with it make us who we are.
Norman Vincent Peale said,
“If you think in negative terms, you will get negative results. If you think in positive terms, you will achieve positive results”.
One might ask, what is the law of attraction and how does it work?
This is pretty much The Law of Attraction in a nutshell:
Think Positive -> Do Positive -> Get Positive Results
Think Negative -> Do Negative -> Get Negative Results
It all starts in the mind. Your present awareness and conscious being.
Gain mastery of mind, gain mastery of self.
The Optimist VS The Pessimist
The law of attraction is a double-edged sword. It can attract the positives — Success, Happiness, Fulfillment, etc. but also on the other end, the negatives — Failing Events, Accidents, Unfulfillment, etc.
We must gain control of our thinking into positive thoughts so that it may guide us to where we really want to go. Doing otherwise may lead us to failure or to an undesired destination.
It is up to us whether to use this law in positive terms or negative terms.
Let me give you an example.
Let’s say two people with the same job, same shift, same schedule, same everything, and their only difference — their attitude. You might find that in any given situation, attitude is everything.
One who thinks in positive terms is what we call an optimist, and one who thinks in negative terms we call as a pessimist.
Now, I feel like it is important to say that everything starts on the night before. That time when you are getting ready for bed and thinking about the next day. I think a lot of us think about our next day right before we sleep.
Let’s call person A, Bob.
Bob goes to sleep thinking about the next day. Now, he doesn’t have the best of jobs but it’s a job nonetheless. He is grateful for that because it could be worse. He could be out of a job. Bob always tries to look at the good side of things, because he knows what the bad side would look like.
He prepares himself mentally that even if the flow of the day may turn out to be bad, there are always ways for him to make it good, or at least end the day well. If it’s a long and rough day at work and with other priorities, the best you can do is end it well before you sleep. No matter how little, Bob would do something for himself in his own will that he likes. Even as simple as listening to his music or watching his favorite shows. The little things can make a huge difference sometimes, and more so when they add up.
Preparing for a bad day sets you up for two things: (1)To be prepared when things go wrong, and (2) to be pleasantly surprised if things flow smoothly. Sometimes, things go smoothly specifically because of your preparation. So prepare to pat yourself at the back when these events happen.
Knowing that Bob is prepared for a bad day, he can now expect the day to be good.
Now, as Murphy’s law dictates, if a thing can go wrong, it will go wrong.
I’m sure this has happened to all of us in one form or another. These factors are unforeseen and can cause major stress. What do you think Bob would do in these kinds of situations?
I think Bob would first accept and understand that these sorts of things happen all the time. He’ll know because it happens to everyone. He has also seen what a “Bad” day looks like, I mean, how else can he prepare for a bad day if he hasn’t ever experienced a bad day, right?
If Bob is able to accept and understand that such events happen all the time, then he shouldn’t have much trouble maintaining his composure when these events arise. He would make decisions through rational thinking and not from the height of his emotions.
Better composure will equal to improved critical thinking and problem solving skills.
And improved problem solving skills can turn a whole day around or even just to soften the blow. Sometimes when sh*t hits the fan (sorry for the language), the best you can do is just to soften the blow to avoid worst case scenarios.
And if there is one thing I know about skills, it’s that skills are learned and can be developed — by anyone, even you.
Now let’s go to,
Let’s call person B, Jim.
Jim is a pessimist. He thinks in negative terms. He usually goes to bed thinking that it will already be a bad day at work. He hasn’t even started his day and it’s already ruined.
While Bob expects and prepares for a bad day, Jim also expects a bad day. But instead of doing something about it, he just complains.
He’s already complaining about what the previous shift might have left for him, or perhaps an anticipated and dreaded meeting at work. Either way, nothing has happened yet and Jim has already complained about everything. Just imagine what kind of sleep he’s going to have.
Next day comes and Jim goes to work already frustrated because his thoughts from last night has polluted his mind into thinking that it is already a bad day.
Getting up at a time you don’t want to, and then going to a job you don’t even like could be very frustrating. Especially if you can’t think of anything that you remotely like at work.
A lot of people go to jobs they don’t like. They do this for forty hours or more. There is no way that this won’t affect their personal life if you are always miserable at work. There are studies that parents who come home stressed from work carry over their frustrations to their family.
There is also research that suggests parents of bullies are often miserable in their line of work and they usually become abusive coming home. This is called displacement in Psychology. A kind of defense mechanism. This displacement is linked to kids bullying in school.
If you go some place already frustrated, wouldn’t your fuse be shorter? That you might just explode at any minute? I’m sure it happened to you already. Some of you may have even exploded yourselves.
Now what happens if things go wrong? Jim won’t be prepared in these cases. He might not be able to maintain his composure and start to panic or be anxious. Sometimes “panic” is contagious and could affect others as well.
Jim is not prepared for a bad day at all.
However you look at it, this is a recipe for a terrible day.
A lot of things could go wrong.
Let’s face it, bad days happen.
So what can we do?
The best we can do is to prepare for it when it happens because it is guaranteed to come.
Knowing that nobody is exempted from having bad days, we just have to deal with it the best way we can.
I think from understanding the Law of Attraction, we can handle these kinds of situations better.
Bob had an easier time handling his bad days because he thinks in positive terms. While Jim on the other hand, had a difficult time dealing with a bad day.
Positive thinking won’t make you do anything, but it does make doing everything easier than negative thinking.
I hope that makes sense.
To further understand The Law of Attraction, we must first clear up some common misconceptions — the most common is that thinking positively is enough to reach a person’s goals.
It is a strong start, definitely, but it surely is not enough to reach your dreams.
While positive thinking and talking about goals are positive actions and important contributors, they simply are not enough to manifest dreams as big as yours. What lacks here is not motivation nor inspiration, you could get plenty of those, what lacks here is action.
In the following misconceptions, we are going to look at 3 factors: thought, communication, and action. These factors will be classified as positive or negative.
Thought – is what you think about
Communication – is what you talk about
Action – is how you act or react
Let’s say that everyone in the following examples are all positive thinkers. They all think that just by the power of positive thinking and the law of attraction, they will be able to reach their goals.
Jim is thinking about going back to school for another degree.
He openly talks about it with his friends and family.
The problem is he hasn’t filled out his application yet. He hasn’t done his research and would always say, “I’m too tired today. Tomorrow I will be better. I have time.” Then he would proceed to watching TV until late at night.
It’s true that because of positive thinking, he would probably fill out his application. Probably. The thing is that he hasn’t taken action yet towards that goal. So as long as no action is being made, Jim will remain where he is currently at.
Jim is thinking about going into business. He thinks about new ideas that might work out in business and beneficial to society. His ideas are usually supported by friends and family but when Jim is urged by his friends, he would always reply with, “It will be too much for me”, “It costs money”, or “I don’t have the time”.
In this example, Jim has some strong positive thinking but something is still missing. He is not having the right conversation with himself nor is he doing anything to reach his goals. There are many instances like these. Talented individuals that deprive the world of their greatness. People who have hidden talents and have moved on from this world. Perhaps you even knew some of these talented people. Maybe it’s you. The unsung heroes who may have sacrificed their own greatness for others, and those who never wanted the credit.
Jim is thinking about asking his boss for a raise. He is having financial issues in his personal life and thinks that if he does his work well, his boss would notice his ‘job well done’ and freely offer him the raise. He shows up for work, never late, and always goes out of the way for his colleagues. Whenever the opportunity shows up for him to ask for the raise everyone knows he deserves, his timidness always overpowers his nerves and ends up not saying anything.
This could result in an unfulfilled feeling for Jim if he is struggling with his financial obligations. A lot of companies will actually give you a raise and most only do it if you ask them, and of course, only if you deserve it. Not a lot will give it to you voluntarily. Jim’s lack of communication can cause him a chance to relieve some of his financial stress, and as long as he doesn’t ask for his well-deserved raise, he will continue to struggle in that aspect of his life.
How long are you going to wait?
When will you get tired of waiting for a good opportunity and start making your own?
I’m sure there are other examples and I’d love to hear them in the comments below.
No Action, No Progress
You can be fully motivated and inspired every time but if you don’t take that first step towards your goal — the first step to start and progress towards your goal — then you are just going to be a motivated and inspired individual. Nothing more, nothing less.
Nothing is going to change in your situation if you don’t change anything from what you did yesterday or from the days passed.
The Law of Attraction will not bring you success just by thinking about it. Action is most important.
No action, no progress.
I hope this article helped you understand the Law of Attraction a little bit more. In the next article, I will be talking about the Law of Cause and Effect and how it directly affects the Law of Attraction. I believe that understanding these laws can open a new path to success and happiness.
Have comments? Questions? Let’s have a discussion below in the comments section.